I may be one of the only former high school football coaches who can claim that he put a C.S. Lewis quote on the back of his practice shirts. The power of C.S. Lewis’ essay “The Weight of Glory” has always resonated strongly with me. And yet, yesterday my son came back from visiting with his grandfather and told me about the conversation they had regarding Lewis’ essays. My immediate thought was – how had I missed that as a parent? I had had these discussions with my football teams over the years but had not shared with my own son an essay that had meant so much to me. And so I dedicate this post to him and his two brothers.
Lewis in “The Weight of Glory” captures a truth that is important for me to be reminded of daily, and for all to hear: “We are always falling in love or quarreling, looking for jobs or fearing to lose them, getting ill and recovering, following public affairs. If we let ourselves, we shall always be waiting for some distraction or other to end before we can really get down to our work. The only people who achieve much are those who want knowledge so badly that they seek it while the conditions are still unfavorable. Favorable conditions never come.”
I know I fall into this trap quite a bit and see others fall into it as well. In simplest terms, we get paralyzed by the immediate, by fear, by the excuse, by the moment – for moments are powerful, can feel all-consuming. I don’t see Lewis’ words dismissing life’s circumstances or responsibilities, but rather encouraging active engagement with them in relation to larger desires and dreams, as seeing them as opportunities to grow by seeking knowledge through the moment. What if we can actively craft the moment? What if we seek a deeper understanding of the moment? And in business, what if we can grow in monetization and built relationships through the moment?
Chip and Dan Heath, in their excellent book, “The Power of Moments,” ask these same questions, and I appreciate Tim Fish for introducing me to it. “In the short term, we prioritize fixing problems over making moments, and that choice usually feels like a smart trade-off. But over time, it backfires.”
I wonder how many things I have prioritized over exploring C.S. Lewis’ beautiful words and guidance with my son. I wonder how many moments I have failed to create, to live through, to seek knowledge from.
It is in that way that Lewis and the Heaths work together, complementing one another. As Lewis notes, the path to the creative energy the Heaths recommend is to want knowledge, badly. The Heath brothers summarize it in their conclusion and set before me a goal for this week of growth: “We can be the designers of moments that deliver elevation and insight and pride and connection. These extraordinary minutes and hours and days – they are what make life meaningful. And they are ours to create.” For me, that will start with sitting down with my son and C.S. Lewis.
Kevin Kunst is an engaging public speaker and published writer with years of experience in teaching, management, consulting and education. He is the Vice President of TRQ Solutions. You can contact him at kevin@trqsolutions.com.